Letter to the ladies

Dear Ladies, permit me to inform you that problems usually erupt from trying to build a life (with regards to marriage) together without purpose, without mission, without something that not only establishes a connection but keeps you caring about each other for the next fifty to sixty years.

📌 BEING IN LOVE ISN’T ENOUGH- I’ve seen people fail to pursue a relationship, even though they respected, admired, and loved another person, because there didn’t seem to be that over-the-top, make-my-knees-weak sexual chemistry. And I’ve watched people rush into a relationship that any objective observer could see had some serious problems on the horizon, but the feelings were so intense, it all felt so right, that two people were willing to bet their lives and their future kids’ happiness on it.

Blurting out or acting on your feelings in the bloom of their creation is a tempting but foolish thing to do. 

Hey sissies, my goal is to get you to care about your boyfriend’s godliness as much as a wife cares about her husband’s godliness. It’s his character that will help keep your life mission alive as feelings begin to fade. 

When wives send emails to counsellors, it’s almost always about character issues: “He shouldn’t do this thing. He should do that thing, but doesn’t. How do I fix this? ”In fact, not long after they become wives, women will fault men for the very things they overlooked and defended as girlfriends.

📌📌Ask yourself, what will you most desire in your man ten years from now, when you have kids and a house and are sharing a life together and the infatuation has faded? Find that! Look for that!!

{An excerpt from a book}